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更改不会发生, 直到 它必须 发生.内驱远远不够;它在过去多次辜负了你。
如果你真的想改变你的生活, 你需要创造 条件的必要性。 这是新的变革科学。
你们世界上的一切都希望保持平衡。你需要粉碎你的潜意识模式, 扰乱你周围的稳态。这将击退那些让你陷入困境的人, 并吸引那些能帮助你进化的人们。
根本变革可能发生 很快。 但它需要大胆的行动, reframes 你的潜意识模式。一旦这些信念得到提升, 你的世界就会立即发生戏剧性的变化。正如查尔斯 Haanel, 被认为是现代自我完善的父亲说, "请记住, 无论困难是什么, 无论在哪里, 不管是谁, 你都没有耐心, 只有自己;你没有做什么, 但说服自己的真相, 你希望看到显着。
1. 投资你自己 (和你的人际关系)
当你投资的东西, 你开始包装你的身份, 在这件事。你越是投入, 你就越能看到自己 那东西。
如果你投资于一个事业, 你将会对这个事业非常投入。如此多的动机不再是一个问题。你的投资水平迫使你做 一切都在你的力量 推进事业。
你对自己有多投入？吉姆罗恩说, “Work hard at your job and you can make a living. Work hard on yourself and you can make a fortune.”
Very few people invest in themselves. Sure, they may buy a book or occasionally get themselves a massage. But again, their subconscious beliefs are limiting. You get in life what you subconsciously believe you deserve. As Dr. David Hawkins explains in his book, Letting Go: “If we have a small view of ourselves, then what we deserve is poverty. And our unconscious will see to it that we have that actuality.”
The more you invest in yourself, the more committed you’ll be to yourself and your own success. The more invested you are, the less entitled you feel. The more you become a giver and not a taker. And the world awards the giver.
By investing big in yourself (and you are, without question, your greatest asset) you shock your subconscious system. You forcibly tell yourself, “I am worth it. What I want matters.”
2. Put Yourself In The Right Environment
“The most creative ideas aren’t going to come while sitting in front of your monitor.” — Scott Birnbaum
In our individualistic society, we often fail to appreciate how dramatically we are influenced by our surroundings.
但你是谁是你的环境的产物。如果你嫁给了一个人, 你会成为一个不同的人, 而不是嫁给别人。
如果你想要更大更好的点子, 你需要把你自己放到不同类型的环境中, 你通常是这样操作的。最好和最创新的想法, 字面上不能渗透的大多数环境。
你需要一个让你进入巅峰状态的环境, 在那里你的想象力可以运行到野外。你感到有动力和灵感的地方你的负面和限制的想法是压制 增强情绪 你正在经历。
Emotions always precede thought. Hence, you need an environment that facilitates specific types of emotions, which then will allow you to create incredible visions, ideas, and strategies.
How do you get into such environments?
You invest in yourself and your relationships. Herein lies a fundamental truth that is largely misunderstood: Supply follows demand.
When the demand is great, the supply will show up in some form or another. So, if you need to succeed, if you must be around specific people, then “the universe will conspire to make it happen.”
It can’t be optional for you. It must be done. To you, it must be “truth.” Only then will the demand be great enough subconsciously to produce the desired result.
This highlights another misconception that keeps people in poverty. Rather than “living within your means,” you should 1) DECIDE what you want, and then 2) FIGURE OUT the means of attaining what you want. As Hall of Fame football coach, Bill Walsh said, “When your why is strong enough you will figure out how!”
3. Set 10X Goals While You’re In A Peak State
“A truly committed decision is the force that can change your life. A truly committed decision has to be unshakable no matter what happens. Even if the stock market collapses, your girlfriend dumps you, or your “friends” think you went crazy.” — Tony Robbins
Few people make committed decisions. Most people, actually, have a very bad relationship with commitment. And because they are bad with commitment, they have low confidence. You can’t have confidence without commitment, because you can’t have confidence if you don’t trust yourself.
Most people lie to themselves several times per day.
They tell themselves they will do something, and then watch themselves not do it. Over and over and over. Mahatma Gandhi said, “To believe in something, and not to live it, is dishonest.”
Making committed decisions is best done in specific environments. You want to be outside of your routine environment.
You want to be in a place and in a state of mind that CREATES a very powerful commitment. You want to create your commitment while you’re in a peak-state. The level of emotion that creates your commitment reflects the quality and height of your trajectory.
If you make a committed decision while in a weak or mediocre frame of mind, you set yourself on a mediocre and lowly path.
While in an elevated state, you want to set goals SO BIG that they scare you. You want to set goals that you cannot currently fathom HOW they’ll be completed. You need to set goals that require faith to achieve them (not necessarily a religious faith — but a firm expectation and hope of a future outcome).
I recently had such an experience. While I was at a mastermind event, I heard a talk about 10X’ing the price of your products and services.
The talk, coupled with the environment, facilitated wild imagination within me. I began to think of an online course I was preparing to sell. The course was originally $200. But I decided to make it $1,000.
When I told some of my clients about my new plans for the course, most of the people were excited. With the elevated price would come elevated services and outcomes.
However, one of my clients barked back at me, “How dare you increase the price by five times? You’re not five times better than you were last year.”
He was right.
I wasn’t five times better. And I never would be, until I created that expectation, both for myself and for others. It was by charging five times more that I became five times better. You never pre-qualify for success. You qualify yourself through the process of taking on something bigger than you’ve ever done before.
To quote famed public speaker, Kyle Maynard:
“The worst advice I’ve ever been given was to not increase the fee I charged to give a keynote speech. I was told I would price myself out of the market, I didn’t have enough recent media coverage to compete against well-known speakers, blah, blah, blah. I decided to raise my price anyway — incrementally at first, then I doubled it. Now I have twice as many inquiries, and people even negotiate with me less. I wish I’d done it earlier. It’s given me much more freedom.”
What about you?
Is your vision poverty-stricken?
4. Recruit A Team Of Geniuses
“You are really not in business until you hire your first person.” — Barbara Corcoran
When I decided I was going to create a much bigger and more compelling online course, I knew I couldn’t do it myself. The vision was way to big for me.
So I decided to hire the best people I could to make the vision happen. I offered to pay them a percentage of the total sales. Said Stephen Covey, “Synergy is what happens when one plus one equals ten or a hundred or even a thousand! It’s the profound result when two or more respectful human beings determine to go beyond their preconceived ideas to meet a great challenge.”
You’ll never feel ready to take on big challenges. Subconsciously, going bigger is out of your reach. So you must act bigger (and before) you feel ready. You must act in such a way that you shock and reshape your subconscious patterns. Your identity isn’t what determines your behavior. Rather, it is your behavior that determines your identity.
By making bold and powerful behaviors, you reshape your identity and your life.
5. Create High Expectations For Those Around You (and yourself)
“Winners make a habit of manufacturing their own positive expectations in advance of the event.” — Brian Tracy
With the help of my new team, I was able to create the most compelling and powerful launch I’ve ever done. Moreover, I was able to upgrade and re-conceptualize the entire online course. It evolved, and I evolved. It was much bigger and would be far more useful to my clients.
The power of the launch and the set-up of the course created a powerful culture within the new group of students. The energy is palpable. The expectations for success are high.
6. Create A Demand So Intense That You’re Forced To Respond Powerfully
“Make the mental image. Make it clear, distinct, perfect; hold it firmly; the ways and means will develop; supply will follow the demand; you will be led to do the right thing at the right time and in the right way. Earnest Desire will bring about Confident Expectation, and this in turn must be reinforced by Firm Demand.” — Charles Haanel
Given the magnitude and quality of the launch, there was an insane response. We started getting hundreds of emails daily from people, seeking more information about the course.
At the time, I didn’t have my own personal assistant. So my friend who was helping me with the launch had his assistant field all of the emails for a week.
During that week, it became clear that I’d need to hire my own full-time personal assistant just to get through the launch. But also, given the new reality we had created — in making the course much bigger and more expansive — I’d need an assistant to help me execute the new vision. It was too big for me to handle on my own.
We had created a situation of extreme demand. Now, we needed help. Within a few days of searching, I found a brilliant new assistant. Again, the subconscious belief system becomes shattered. New ideas begin to emerge within the realm of the new environment being created. As famed historian, Will Duran said, “I think the ability of the average man could be doubled if it were demanded, if the situation demanded.”
Bigger and bolder vision begins to take shape as the new situation unfolds.
Dan Sullivan, the founder of Strategic Coach, has said that for someone to maximize their potential, they need to outsource everything that isn’t their “unique ability.” Others have similarly said that you should ONLY do that which will make the biggest impact. Only do your “super-power,” and have other people do the rest.
You need to put yourself in a position where you cannot do it yourself. It will be your tendency to procrastinate hiring other people to help you with the logistics. The longer you wait, the less progress you make. Once you have other people who can handle EVERYTHING except your super-powers, your connections, and your vision, your success will 10X or 100X very, very quickly.
7. Watch As Your World Reshapes Itself To Match The New You
“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favour all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamt would have come his way.” — William Hutchison Murray
When you act boldly in the spirit of 10X committed decisions, you absolutely will disrupt the status-quo.
The environment holding your current reality together will be shattered — like shoving a sharp wedge into a glass structure. All the pieces will fly everywhere.
Chaos will ensue.
Everything will be trying to force you back to your comfort zone.
But the damage will already be done. The intense decision will have been set in motion. Ripples are now spreading and making waves. You’ll have acted powerfully, and you can’t take that action back. It’s no longer just ideas swirling around in your head. But you’ve now put them out into the world — where real consequences are now arising.
Your new decision, and thus your new reality and identity will not be well-received by some. In fact, the illusion that has long-since been your relationship with certain people will shatter. The “new you” will no longer be acceptable to some. You’ll push their buttons too far. They won’t be able to keep the act up any longer.
It will become obvious that your relationship with certain people wasn’t real. And now, you’ll repel these people from your life.
There may be some seriously harsh consequences to doing this.
Business could fail.
Significant relationships could end.
But whatever chaos comes from making the bold and new decision needed to happen. The glass house you had created around you to keep yourself safe and stuck needed to be destroyed.
You’re willing to face the consequences.
You’re willing to seemingly take a few momentary steps backwards, because you know that in all reality, you’re now moving in the direction you want to be.
You’re now living at a much higher frequency, where the rate and height of results will be much better and faster anyways.
You’re no longer living a lie.
You’re forcing your environment to change. Forcing it to match your visions and ideals. Forcing yourself to evolve into the person you want to be.
我已经创造了一个免费的训练, 把你自己变成一个巅峰状态, 立即。如果你每天都遵循这一要求, 你就能主动创造你想要的生活。